Premature Ejaculation and Your Confidence Level

One of the most common sexual disorders that males encounter nowadays is premature ejaculation. It is defined as ejaculation that comes too quickly, even prior to penetration. A man who suffers this sexual dysfunction cannot even withstand thirty seconds before he ejaculates. In other words, premature ejaculation is "coming very quickly," or "too early."

There are several reasons for having premature ejaculation. There are claims that when the partner exceedingly arouses the man, premature ejaculation happens. According to recent researches, hyperactivity and too much sensitivity to bodily vibration during stimulation result in premature ejaculation. When one is apprehensive of his own performance in bed, it is very likely to occur. When a man is nervous, he also comes too rapidly. Others believe that a man whose first experience was hastened is one major explanation for having this sexual disorder. For some, premature ejaculation is due to one's remorse brought by parental and religious restriction. It is a result of the fear that one is breaking some rules. It may also be of emotional hang up. A man who has unresolved relationships in the past is also prone to having premature ejaculation. From the perspective of evolution, premature ejaculation is inherited. Man has an instinct for propagation tells him that those who comes quickly impregnate women fast.

Some men do not find premature ejaculation as a serious problem. Rather, they consider it as a simple irritation that can lessen the satisfaction that each party experience. However, it certainly has unpromising consequence since it makes sexual experience worse if a man comes too quickly before the partner reach the climax. According Marilyn K. Volker, Ed.D. (1998), premature ejaculation becomes a disorder when "either party is not satisfied with the way the man ejaculates."

Let's face it. We are living in a "macho culture" world. The norm here is that men are able to make their partners happy by satisfying their sexual needs. The degree to which a man gratifies his partner is the yardstick of his masculinity. It is a focal point of self-enhancement.

Thus, most men find premature ejaculation bothersome. This is perfectly reasonable because this disorder deeply undermines the self-confidence of men when it comes to sex. For the males, it becomes so humiliating and emotionally bruising at the same time because they are not able to please their partners. It certainly makes both parties unhappy for premature ejaculation spoils the fun of sex. It could even ruin marriage that went unsatisfying because husband could not satisfy wife during sexual intercourse for always coming too quickly. It then becomes apparent that a man's inability to control his own orgasm is a serious threat to his self-confidence.

People believe that self-confidence comprises the deep nature of every human being's personal growth and development. For this reason, men strive to keep their masculinity, which is the fuel of their confidence. To keep their machines running, disorders like premature ejaculation must be given treatment.